As a student counsellor, I work with students of different ages, classes, and backgrounds. I have discovered some pivotal findings amongst young kids which, I presume, can reasonably affect the quality of their life in the future. Children who are encouraged by their parents to engage into different body and mind activities develop external and internal sets of living skills in the early stages of their life.

  • Movement or physical based activities – karate, swimming, basketball, and dancing etc.
  • Intellectual activities – reading and writing clubs, sci-fi and STEM activities etc.

External skills are namely confidence, social skills (interaction & communication), presentation (self-carrying skills) whereas internal skills include self-awareness, self-esteem, resilience, and self-image.

Having a range of activities in children opens the door of gaining adulthood life skills which is crucial in this complex world.

Most individuals today fail to develop either their external or internal set of skills due to various constraints:

  1. Controlled parenting
  2. Limited avenues of joy
  3. Prolonged periods of inactivity or pressured activity which kids do not enjoy.

It is important for a child not only to keep going with a pleasurable routine, but also to have a breadth of options to help him or her manifest self-preferences and priorities.

Here I have mentioned various life skills, however would like to emphasise and highlight the importance of self-awareness, as I have personally observed numerous benefits of this personal trait.

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The significance of having self-knowledge can never be undermined in any way. Most people in their teenage or adulthood consult mental health consultants as they are not able to understand their own emotions whilst dealing with difficult people in their lives.

The early onset of self-awareness offers more insightful orientation to a person about explicit and implicit emotions in relation to any event, people, and experiences. It also restores one with the introspective trait to deal with constellation of multifaceted emotions without any external assistance.

Emotional mindfulness is significant and extremely effective in saving a person from further complications in their future.

We are already conscious that this is a world requiring high emotional intelligence. One who is emotionally mindful cannot only control his or her behavior, but can also anticipate behavior of others around them and therefore be in a better position to influence others.

On the other hand, most of life’s troubles arise when one is not emotionally informed and hence, is prone to confusion, stress, and vulnerability. The childhood phase is the most important part of ones’ life to build and nourish this particular capacity.

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This should be emphasized in schools and early learning centers also, in order to reform educational curriculum and well-being frameworks to help provide robust opportunities of love, care, and space for actions to a child.

It can be the best way for children to thrive and grow whilst having a dynamic set of life skills, ultimately helping them to live a purposeful life where they can positively influence their community and contribute to society at large.