Everyone is talking about it now. Trauma affects our lives including both our physical and mental health.
Perhaps you have experienced something that you feel might be behind why you are not living the life you really want for yourself and your family and have connected it to your past experiences, or even your current situation.
One of the challenges of this movement to wake people up to the impact of trauma is to not recreate the trauma in the process. What I mean is, when we keep revisiting in our minds the difficult experiences we have had and then we add in the context that this experience is meant to be traumatic, we can become traumatised by experiences that we had navigated successfully at the time. All after the event!
We are always experiencing life through thought in the moment. It is our perspective that makes something traumatic or not, not what actually happened.
Allah has already warned us that He will test us, “you are sure to be tested through your possessions and persons …” (Qur’an, 3:186) and He concludes this verse with “…If you are steadfast and mindful of Allah, that is the best course.”
Allah gives us the answer here, these events in our life are a part of our test. He has tells us that being mindful of Him is our way through those tests. He also tells us that in the remembrance of Allah we will find our heart at peace (Qu’ran, 13:28).
It will not be more that we can cope with because He has said, He will not burden us with more than we can bear (Qu’ran, 2:286), so that means that this test has been tailored for us and not to break us.
This shows us that our life is not meant to be traumatic. However, as humans we experience it that way often and it affects us emotionally, spiritually, and physically.
So why is that?
The answer lies in what I have already shared with you. The moment we see an event in our life as traumatic, we will experience it as traumatic. When we see it that way, we have simply forgotten in that moment how Allah fits into the picture.
We have forgotten that we are living in this world, Dunya as a test for the Akhirah. We are believing that something is wrong. And we have lost sight of what is right.
If we believe it is traumatic, we will experience it as traumatic. If we believe it is a test, we will struggle through that test as best we can without the suffering included.
You may have been through a lot and my words may sound flippant. Before you allow that thinking to direct you away from this truth, ponder a moment. Give yourself permission to experience your tests without the trauma.
The answer lies within our own selves and how we think about our experience. When our thinking changes, we can see that it is in fact a love letter from Allah!