The Prophet Muhammad (s) stated, “God has sent me as an apostle so that I may demonstrate perfection of character, refinement of manners and superiority in behavior.”
Our kids are going to adopt what we are practicing, so its very important we practice what we want them to learn. Listed below are 5 categories of good manners for our better life style which will help our children to become a good humans.
1) Personal grooming and hygiene
- Washing the body often. If possible, everybody should have daily shower or a bath.
- Cleaning the teeth at least once a day.
- Washing hands with soap after going to the toilet.
- Washing hands with soap before preparing and/or eating food.
- Changing into clean clothes. Dirty clothes should be washed with laundry soap before wearing them again.
- Hanging clothes in the sun to dry. The sun’s rays will kill some disease-causing germs and parasites.
- Turning away from other people and covering the nose and mouth with a tissue or the hand when coughing or sneezing.
2) Being a good host and a good guest
Khalid ibn Amr relates that he heard Prophet Muhammad (s) saying: He who believes in Allah and the Last Day should honour his guest as he deserves.
He was asked: ‘And what does he deserve, O Messenger of Allah?’ and he answered:
‘A day and a night of what he deserves, and hospitality for three days. More than this is charity.’ (Bukhari, Muslim).
The ideal guest needs to be polite, discreet, grateful and respectful. He or she will also make sure not to hurt the host’s feelings or be hostile.
3) Respect your elders
Abu Musa Ashari related that the Messenger of Allah said: ‘It is part of glorifying Allah to show respect to a grey-haired Muslim, and to a person who can teach the Quran.’ (Abu Dawud).
Respecting your elders is a requirement of Islam, whether you’re in Australia or in the Muslim world.
Certain behaviors need to be avoided in this regard: speaking with disrespect, even if you disagree with an older person; stretching your legs or putting your feet up on the table in front of everyone present specially when there are elders there.
It is recommended to jump up and offer your seats to elders.
Replying with “Walaikum as salaam” (and upon you be peace) instead of the generic “Hi!” and “Hello” when greeting fellow Muslims.
4) Being a Kind and considerate friend
As parents, it is our job to teach our kids how to be a good friend and how to fulfill the rights their friends actually have over them.
Part of learning manners and etiquettes is knowing that you are never allowed to backbite your buddies (saying that in their absence which they wouldn’t like to hear in their presence), that you must always return any items you’ve borrowed in exactly the condition you received them in (and replace/compensate for anything that is broken or lost).
You should offer congratulations when someone dear to you receives good news and with your condolences when someone is dealing with bad news.
5) Know the local customs
No, does not always mean no, amongst some relatives and friends in Muslim countries. In other words, if you’re no longer hungry after a fantastic meal at your aunt’s and she asks you to take more dessert, your answer may be no, but that may translate as yes for her. For every one of your no’s, she may spoon more dessert into your bowl.
Find appropriate ways to respond to this, whether it’s by using a truthful excuse ( I really will get very, very sick if I eat any more), or even better, tell her the Hadith about eating in a way that you have one-third water, one-third food and one-third air in your stomach.