A number of signs and symptoms reveal stress in the work place. We react to cope  from different challenging situations. Our reactions determine the way we think and represent cognitive pattern (templates).

There are many preliminary and late signs of ineffective copings that one should be aware of and try to resolve early.

  1. Blaming oneself for bad outcome – (Personalisation)

The habit of self-blame and remorse is lethal in a bigger set-up as it prevents you from progression and keeps one feel guilty all the time. It will also prevent one from utilizing positive feedback because of excessive attention on picking up wrong threads.

The emergence of positive psychology has transformed perspectives to view any adverse circumstance to use for self-development. Even the negative feedback can be taken in the most constructive way.

  1. Trying to make others happy – (People pleasing)

Even a balanced decision in any conflict can disappoint people. One has to find enough confidence within to bear  disagreements in any working situations. The struggles of keeping others happy reflects our inner most void and reliance on others for self-affirmation.

  1. Repeated self-validations

The tendency to prove the decision and choices (you have made) for conflict resolution takes place to have satisfaction that is mostly transient in nature.

Why do we have to prove? We tend to prove in order to consolidate others’ (sanguine) views about us.

Why we want to consolidate? We do, because their reassurances give us sense of being right.

Why? It happens when you feel yourself weaker, guilt-ridden and under fear of being isolated and marginalized.

By increasing the volume of our followers, we tend to compensate for our low self-esteem.

  1. Rationalizations

Confidence comes with positive experiences in diverse backgrounds. The need to rationalize every step and action is sometimes a hallmark of personal hollowness. People strive to reason to unconsciously prepare answers for others. They have enormous fear of being questioned/challenged by anyone.

  1. The Roots of mess

It is a common inference that productive work strategies and creativity elevate the ratio of satisfaction, achievement and offers air of confidence to people. The root of ineffective coping is divided into two halves:

  1. Personality makeup: The fragile composition of personality (id; animalistic desires like hunger and sex, ego; patterns of coping mechanisms and superego; principles and morals) renders one to admit him or herself as incompetent. This may be the result of early childhood experiences.
  2. Ineffective working habits: Despite the strong hold of personality, dishonesty causes loopholes and unfavorably affect ones attitude towards peers.


The work life balance is essential for everyone. We obtain joy and fill our cups from resources like friends, family, hobbies and spiritual practices. Hardworking employees suffer a lot from lack of recognition, favoritism and prejudice at workplace, which eventually make them leave.

Employees’ undesired and derailed attitudes are always a cry for help and carries a reason behind. Leadership teams can only disentangle the matters by looking deeply into it and not via helicopter view.