Sometimes it becomes hard to control your anger, whether it’s something at work, dealing with family or just watching the news and the atrocities that we see around the world in this day and age. However, what has been said about the nature of anger, and how can one learn to control it? Lets see how important is anger control in Islam.
A man came to Prophet Mohammad (s) and asked him for advice. He said:
“Do not become angry.” The man repeated his request for advice, and each time, the Prophet replied with this one phrase that sums up all good attitudes and behavior: “Do not become angry.” (Bukhari)
Following this beautiful hadith following are some practices which will change your life:
1. Think before you speak
In the heat of the moment, it’s easy to say something you’ll later regret. Take a few moments to collect your thoughts before saying anything and allow others involved in the situation to do the same.
2. Remember: Anger is not Power
The strong man is not the one who can wrestle, but it is the one who can control himself when he is angry.” (Hadith: Bukhari). So don’t ever think that your anger will make you strong in front of others.
3. Take a timeout
It won’t bruise your dignity nor tarnish your image. You can end your presence in this situation. Whether physically or if it’s a phone conversation, or a virtual presence with chatting, and react later when you’re mentally ready to deal positively with the situation.
4. Stick with ‘I’ statements
For example, “I understand how you feel, I know you must be angry, etc. Try and avert the angered person from thoughts that continue to anger them.
5. Never go-to the Past
Most of the time we raise those points which has nothing to do with the current situation, it is very wrong and dangerous and often works like fuel on fire.
If you hate the attitude of the person who’s angry, know that reacting in a harsh manner will render you pretty much similar to him/her, so you’d better be careful.
It is narrated that “The Prophet never took revenge for his own sake, but if the laws of Allah were violated, he would take revenge for the sake of Allah.”