Mental health is still an issue of conflict in many societies as most people find it a subject of taboo or stigma and therefore, they prefer not to talk about their mental health in public or even in private settings.
People find it a matter of willpower, a matter of your mental strength, and stamina. Common men infer that mental illnesses are because of a lack of spiritual connection or supernatural influences.
Mental health is still not equal to physical health for many. Because physical health can be seen, evaluated and assessed but mental health cannot be seen or measured easily.
It is because apparently a person can look well and functional but mentally he or she can be distracted or even depressed.
Counselling or psychotherapy are still considered to be dubious approaches. People find it rubbish because of various reasons. Most of them find it useless and conclude that it cannot change anything.
Others have misconceptions, they equate counselling with medication. They deem that counselling works wonder in days or so (just like medicine).
For them, if you receive a counselling then your abusive spouse would be cured instantly, rude parent/relative would show compassion and all difficult relationships turn into a good one, overnight. When it does not happen as they perceive then they assume the treatment method is futile.
The concept of counselling is even not yet clear to many literate individuals.
Counselling is offered to help a person to know him or herself in a better way. Self- awareness empowers with emotional control.
Counselling is usually required when people show aggression, passive-aggression, avoidance, violence and manipulation.
A person consults a counsellor when they find the situation out of their hands. This feeling of helplessness stirs emotional instability.
Talking to a neutral person (a counsellor or therapist) who does not direct them to focus on other behaviours but their own. It eventually helps clients to identify the troubling emotion.
The same difficult situation can then be dealt with differently as now person knows more about self and associated emotion, limitations, weakness and strengths which ultimately imparts an improved sense of control.
In the next phase, therapy drives ones to focus from problem-based spiral towards solution-based thinking. Solution-based thinking actually starts taking its course as soon as one talks about entangled emotions.
The part of the brain responsible for solution-based thinking does not work until one does not talk about his or her feelings, thoughts and emotions.
Counsellors take an impartial standpoint. They do not offer direct advice.
They facilitate you to think more rationally and less emotionally. They help you with the explanation of the pros and cons of every situation, thinking and behaviour.
They explain the correlation and consequence. It is up to the client to decide the way forward on the basis of such discussion.
Clients’ understanding about choices and situations guides their decision making.
The main idea is to empower a person to feel more in control of him or herself in adverse situations. Counselling facilitates people to focus more on their strengths and less on their weaknesses, more on the solution and less on the situation, and thus after months of endeavour and struggle, it grows (not change) a person gradually, nothing happens overnight.