Today, we have kids who are securing higher scores out of family pressure but lacking feelings for others. We have better education and research studies on ground but humanity is wearing off. In this digitalized era, kids are more distracted, hyperactive, defiant and anxious.
Only handful of Parents are eager to raise kids as compassionate humans rather than as successful individuals of society.
By virtue of my profession, I gathered some inferences based on parenting patterns, home environment, children temperaments and childhood adversities, which can assist parents to raise empathetic kids rather than ruthless toppers.
Give them a choice
Self-identity is the basic key towards happiness and contentment. Showing kids the range of choices in doing homework, household chores, toys and clothes, and routine work.
When children are asked to make a choice then their likes and dislikes help kids (and parents) to know more about their preferences which eventually open a gateway for parents to unfold more about their kids’ (future) personality and temperament. Even one can enquire about friends! What make them feel like choosing one friend over the other?
Parents who try to control their kids may find their kids confused, defiant and disturbed in later part of life.
The freedom of choice is a very important psychological milestone. It offers them to perceive the world as happy and trustworthy place.
When children choose for themselves, they face the consequence of their choice, which help them take a respective decision (kids learn here responsibility taking and autonomy). The sense of autonomy teaches them how to exercise power and use self-control by solving issues associated with their choices.
Parents can also passively help them make a decision by making kids to reflect upon the effects of their choices on others. Thus, allowing children to feel not only for themselves but also for others.
This serves as a foundation for empathy.
Use everyday experience
Empathy is a significant emotional and psychological trait. Empathy comes with training. Parents can use objects like books, toys and experiences like shopping trip, car ride and evening walk or doing a kitchen job at home to make kids realize that we share the space, planet, food, money and other valuables. To feed others is equally important as focusing on self-needs. It drives them to seek happiness through others by sharing.
The “me” syndrome
In the modern world, most of the parents overtly focus on self by explicitly disregarding other’s needs.
Kids model our behavior.
Constant reminders on having a thought about others over minor and major matters is necessary. The habit of thinking about others cultivates kindness.
Wisdom of Appreciation
Thankfulness over what you have has a magical influence on a human behavior. It increases contentment and brings joy. Gratitude shifts the gaze towards positivity in life. It stirs up the desire to share with others what you already have.
The world is getting on the path of entropy because of rising corruption, greed and anarchy secondary to injustice.
The technological advances are making a world a comfortable place to live but its repertoire to offer spiritual pleasure, civility and tranquility has reduced remarkably.
The empathetic hearts can contribute positively to societies and even can help themselves in their spiritual growth, which is a much-needed characteristic today to build lust-free moral world for future.