“Giving is beautiful”. But how can we give others if we cannot give ourselves?
The above statement was one of the many guiding principles for the MIM (Mothers Inspire Mothers) Program, which was facilitated by Hajeh Maha Abdo OAM, CEO of MWA (Muslim Women Association) on Monday 30 July 2018 at MWA Felicity House in Bass Hill, Sydney.
This MIM session placed an emphasis on self-care, which is often overlooked in both motherhood and conversation as many associate it with selfishness. However, Hajeh Maha was able to deliver a heartfelt and realistic approach to the importance of self-care, especially in motherhood.
While the ice-breaker provided a safe space for mothers to share their experiences, Hajeh Maha’s experiences as a mother and grandmother helped outline further the definition as well as some guidance on participating in self-care.
The discussion was all inclusive and expanded on topics such as culture and society and how many of these factors contribute to the unrealistic expectations of a mother, which many often fall into.
Falling into the trend of 24/7 mum brings with it burnout, exhaustion and an imbalance as the mothers put it, and with that, the group was able to gain insight into some of the ways they can support themselves to ensure a steady balance between motherhood and self.
This included the understanding that self-care is different for everybody and, to encourage self-care into daily life, we need to train ourselves to “slow down” as Hajeh Maha put it. Only then are we able to know when to service ourselves and promote our own health wellbeing.
While the monthly MIM program is designed to support mothers, as a student, I know we can also fall short on our own mental and emotional health due to study, school and/or work. With that, The Confident Mum allowed for a greater discussion on the importance of taking a ‘time-out’ and using the connection to faith as a tool for recognising our duty to ensure our own greater health wellbeing for even better productivity.
In addition, four other themes were discussed on managing difficult times, these included: Acceptance, Respect, Contentment and Dignity. All of which provided a baseline for self-acknowledgment, being content with what Allah SWT has provided for us and our duty to care for ourselves so that we are able to give the best version of ourselves to the service of our families.
Overall, the program was well delivered and provided a safe environment for mothers to share and support one another on the importance of self-care. I look forward to being part of the next MIM program, ‘Be Kind to You’ in August and ‘More Than Just A Mum’ in September.
If you are interested in being part of MIM, you can get in touch with us on 02 9750 6916 or email [email protected]