Forgiveness is the act of consciously deciding to let go of indignation and thoughts of revenge towards another entity who has harmed you in some way.
This attribute is a moral virtue, unconditionally expressed as an act of mercy toward those who have acted unjustly toward the forgiver.
Mercy is defined as “conscious compassion shown towards an offender in spite of the fact that forgiving person is able to retaliate.
Dr Swartz, a psychiatrist said: “You are choosing to offer compassion and empathy to the person who wronged you.”
Forgiving individuals are gentle, self-controlled, patient, peaceful, and also they are a pattern of moral worthiness. When they feel someone has acted inappropriately or offensively, they remind the human values to one who offended them with the act of forgiving.
Medical studies have found that some people are just naturally more forgiving. Accordingly, they tend to be more satisfied with their lives and to have less dumps, anxiety, stress, anger and antagonism.
One study written in The Journal of Behavioral Medicine found forgiveness to be connected with lower heart rate and blood pressure as well as stress relief. Therefore, this can bring long-term health benefits for heart and overall health.
Before the evidence from social sciences and medicine, this strength had been emphasized in religious thought.
The Prophet of Islam declared over a thousand years ago: The person who forgives more, his life would be longer (A’lam ud-Din fi Sefat el-Mo’menin, p.315).
Islam encourages forgiveness between people and advises continence, restrain anger, and patience.
Following are some verses of the Holy Quran and a Hadith of Prophet (s) on the subject of forgiveness:
“Show forgiveness, enjoin what is good, and turn away from the ignorant.” (Quran 7:199)
“Verily, the hour is coming (life is very short), so forgive them with gracious forgiveness.” (Quran 15:85).
“Whoever is patient and forgives – indeed, that is among the matters [requiring] steadfast determination.” (Quran 42:43)
“The believers are those who spend in charity during ease and hardship and who restrain their anger and pardon the people…” (Quran 3:134)
Prophet Muhammad (s) asserted: Forgive each other to make your grudges drop. (Hadith: Nahj al Fasaha 642).
The power of forgiveness is not just a solution for transforming anger, But it’s a crucial component to one’s personal development.
Forgiving others is essential for spiritual growth. When individuals forgive, they become able to rediscover positive emotions such as benignity and tenderness.
It is usually through therapy that these emotions become accessible and allows them to achieve a greater sense of empowerment.
On the other hand, thoughts of resentment, anger, and hatred represent slow, debilitating energies that will dis-empower man.
This strength is an important aspect in marriage, social relations, and all of interactions in various societies.
Feel empathy for the offenders and wish happiness on them. Forgive the person and realize that in forgiveness, you are more able to live a happier life.
Admittedly Forgiveness isn’t easy. These notes will help you move closer to concept of forgiveness and consequently peace of mind.
Ultimately, you should practice forgiveness by treating it as a peaceful gift to yourself and your offenders.