I have always loved arranging flowers, gifting bouquets and of course, receiving flowers. Until recently, making money from arranging flowers had always been an acceptable source of income for me.

This changed however, when a friend posted an article on her Facebook page that explored how the floral industry uses a cocktail of pesticides and how it was contributing to the decline of bees.

I think that as citizens and members of this planet, every single one of us has a responsibility to protect, maintain and sustain the environment. Being in the wedding industry has only further reinforced this sense of duty.

Why is it that our weddings have thousands of flowers on show? The reason why growers use pesticides is to meet the demand for perfect, bug-free flowers. Do you really need to have that floral arch and table centrepiece with towering globes of roses? That floral chandelier? The bride and groom table dripping with peonies, lilies, and more roses? All for ONE wedding?

To me it seems innately egotistical to demand that your “one special day” has to be flooded with flowers, which ironically, kill the one species it needs to sustain it.

There are alternatives.

Search for florists that use organic flowers (just do a google search). Get creative in how you think about wedding decor. I know a blogger (Young House Love) who used lemons in glass vases as centrepieces. Another bride used wildflowers from an obliging field.

Each and every one of us have the responsibility to be scrupulous in everything that we do. We need to question our intentions and our choices and their impact.

Your wedding day should not be an exemption simply because we have been brainwashed to think that it is the ‘one day’ that is ‘all about you’.

We accept this without even thinking about it, and use it to justify every extravagance. In the end, is it really about you, or is it about showing your ‘perfect’ love to everyone else? In the film ‘The Secret life of Walter Mitty’, one line struck me as profound:

“Beautiful things don’t ask for attention.”

There is humility even in love. It is not something to be cheaply displayed for the world to see, it does not seek attention.

It revels in the purer realm of quiet intimacy, where knowledge of the other’s love is recognised, acknowledged, protected, and there, celebrated.


This article was originally published on www.themodestbride.com.au